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Friendships Come in All Shapes and Sizes
Some friends we know from childhood are with us our entire lives. Others come into our lives for a short time, and our lives are enhanced. With some friends, we feel close right away, and were are able to share intense experiences soon after we meet. Other friendships develop slowly, perhaps over years.
Some people we keep close contact with frequently. Other friends drift in and out of our lives. I have a friend who I met when I was pregnant with my daughter 30 years ago. We saw each other off and on over the years, losing track of each other, then seeing each other in front of a health food store or crossing the street downtown. Now weve vowed not to lose track of each other again. We have each others phone numbers and e-mail addresses, and its easy to stay in touch.
The more you see a person on a regular basis, the more likely a friendship will flower. You can see someone at the same caf, bump into them at the gym, or share the same class with them over a semester. You start with a simple hi, move to short conversation and then to longer and more intimate ones.
Youre also more likely to form a friendship with someone who lives nearby. Being physically close can make a big difference. If the person is open and friendly and enjoys talking, developing a friendship may happen quickly.
There is a greater chance of becoming friends if you share the same interests, beliefs and values. Although you dont have to agree on everything, if you look at the world in the same way, this is an excellent basis for friendship. You may have similar jobs, family situations, education, ages, spiritual beliefs, or economic status. If their personality is like yours, all the better!
Where to Meet People Who Can Be Your Friends
There are many, many places where you can find people to start a friendship with. Look around you and see if any of your neighbors are similar to you. It can be your neighbor in the next apartment or someone down the street who likes to do what you do. Start a conversation and see where it leads.
What about making contact with people from your past? You can call an old school chum and find out what theyre doing now. You can e-mail each other or, if you live close by, call them and have lunch to catch up. Sometimes this can lead to a closer relationship.
You may find an interesting friend at work, someone who shares your interests or who you enjoy spending time with. During breaks and lunchtime, you can discover if there is any connection. If you ask them to go to a movie or attend an event with you, youll see if you have fun together.
Of course, if youre taking a class, you already know you have something in common. Talking during a break or after class will help you know whether or not you want to make a deeper connection.
One of the best ways to meet people like yourself is to be involved in activities youre interested in. It can be a hobby that youre gaining knowledge about, a physical activity that you enjoy doing, learning a new skill, a lecture youre attending about a topic youre passionate about, or volunteering for a cause that you feel strongly about. You can look for one-time events such as lectures, home shows, concerts, tournaments, or sports events. Or you can look for something more long-term such as political activist meetings, book clubs, meditation groups, yoga classes, or religious services.
When youre attracted to something, others who are similar to you will find you interesting. You can exchange stories and experiences and even create new ways to do things together.
Exercise
At least once today, compliment a friend on their appearance, their smile, or a decision they have made. Not only will they appreciate your compliment, you will feel good for having enhanced their day.
